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Today, Desirae Culp is sharing with us a great word that God has shown her lately and that could apply to each and every one of us….thanks, Desi, for being transparent and real with us!!  


“A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart &

an evil man brings evil things put of the evil stored in his heart.


 – Luke 6:45


A client informed me this week of a conversation that she had with another mom. This other mom had told her that 2 words she didn’t let her kids say were:

  • Bored (which I totally understood-that was a word we weren’t allowed to say growing up either!); and
  • TIRED!!!

I might have looked at my client like she was crazy. Why on earth would this lady not let her kids say they were tired?? I asked my client if I heard her correctly & she said yup! She said she didn’t want her children speaking that as a word curse over themselves, because speaking “tired” over oneself becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

I think about how i feel when I  say “I’m tired” vs “I’m happy” and….

So as I let that soak into my brain a little & talked with some mentors about it, I came to some major conclusions.


Pretty sure I say “I am tired” so many times every day.

Think about this – breaking that sentence down in a simple grammatical style – tired is defining the word “I”.

If you think about how The Lord defines himself, it is simply I AM. Any word after that speaks to His character.

We are made in His image & are chasing after His heart & redefining ourselves by His character & we are walking in destiny & purpose. So in defining ourselves, I’m pretty darn sure “tired” is not part of His character, part of His heart for us, or part of our destiny….

So in the last few weeks since I’ve heard this I’ve watched my language. The 2 things I’ve definitely never wanted to define me are “busy” & “tired”. However, those are the 2 things I speak over myself ALL THE TIME! What?!? Yup! So I’m not only speaking those over myself but defining myself to others by those words! SO NOT OK!
Now hear me, I’m not saying that I don’t feel tired sometimes, or that sometimes my schedule gets a little on the crazy side. I will not go into the semantics & debate of what words are appropriate & try to put down rules of what we should or should not say. I’m saying that for me, in my life, I want to speak blessing over myself & others, & not cursing because we have the power to do that. (Proverbs 18:21)


So I personally have decided to change the wording of “I am busy” to “my life is full”. I’m trying to only use the word tired when it’s a feeling & not a state of being. I’ve come to find that it’s so much more of a heart issue than I originally thought…


One of my very dear friends made a comment earlier this week about having grace for someone.  Our prayer as we ended our conversation was that our speech be full of grace. As she prayed that, I realized that lately my speech has not been full of grace – for myself or for others. So this becomes a different type of prayer for me – God change my heart, so that my talk may change as well…
So my question to you ladies today is this – what are you speaking over yourself?

 – Desirae                                                 

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Today, Desirae Culp shares with us an important word on who we really are!!!  





Be the gong ringer.


Sounds funny & was something I almost laughed with my friends about.


But then as I watched her sit on the sidelines (of a symphony if that’s possible) only standing to do her part, I realized I feel a lot like the gong player a lot of the time.


Over looked, sidelined, with a very small part to play.


Except her part is important & a lot of times I wonder if mine is.


Deep down I know it is.  There’s a podcast with Emily Freeman & Christa Black from the IF gathering that I can’t get out of my head. In the last 2 min, Christa talks about the legacy she wants to leave behind. & it’s a surprising one to me.  The legacy she wants to leave behind is that she wants to be known as someone who operates out of I John 4:19  -a person who operates out of how much she is loved – that everything she does flows from knowing she is the beloved.


Ladies – isn’t it time we operate out of love & stopped operating out of what other people think? Afraid of what other people will say? Paralyzed by our own expectations of ourselves?


We (ie. I) set this impossibly high standard & then are disappointed when I don’t “measure up” & assume that God & everyone else is disappointed in me too. THAT’S NOT TRUTH!!!


I’m doing a study in proverbs & one of the verses that has resonated says (basically) that lies last for a moment but truth lasts forever. (Pro 12:19)


Listen to me- I know I’m young in a lot of ways but I know this surer than I know my name. If we don’t come to a place of truth & vulnerability we will not walk in freedom. I’m not saying everyone you meet needs to know every single thing going on in your life, but I am saying that someone needs to.  Christa also said secrecy breeds shame & I believe that to be true.


Let me speak some truth:

You are immeasurably loved.

You are created wholly & specifically the way you are,

You are delighted in!

You are treasured, You are fought for, You are worth so much more than I can tell you.

So as summer hits & the whole world goes crazy trying to fit everything into no set schedule whatsoever, take some time to find a friend, to have a glass of tea & get vulnerable with someone, to soak in being loved instead of being measured, & then LIVE that out because the world needs new creations that know they are beloved..


 – Desirae

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Running the Race…

We have a guest post from Desirae Culp today…thanks for sharing with us, Desi!!! 

“I heard Phil’s sermon Sunday was intense…a black & white call to be present….to commit fully & not just in words. I wish I’d been there, but I was learning another important lesson that actually corresponds with Phil’s sermon.

I was running a half marathon Sunday.

This was my second one to run & in a weird way a much easier one. You see, I did no training for it. No prepatory long runs before hand, no everyday running to get myself ready like last time. Nope, I went from running 2 to 4 miles every other day to running 13.1 on Sunday.

Perhaps not the smartest thing ever, but the thing is, this time I had a running partner. Last time I had people waiting for me at the finish line, people I knew were cheering me on, which was great. But this time I had someone who stayed with me through the entire thing. Someone to encourage me, push me on, hold me accountable.

I can honestly say there is no way i would have finished the race this time without that.

When a friend & I were talking about the sermon on Sunday (she was there for it), it occurred to me that maybe that was what has made it hard for us to jump in fully, to be fully present. I know,to an extent, it has for me.

I walk around in my own little world trying to run this race without allowing myself accountability, without allowing people to run beside me & encourage me & push me on.

We want to walk in grace but we do it alone.

Ladies, we aren’t meant to walk alone.

The Springs Women’s Fall Retreat is coming up Oct 19-21…and the theme is all about walking in grace. I highly highly encourage you to go. Invest in people’s lives & let them invest in yours.  If you can’t go for various reasons, start investing anyway. Find someone that will walk beside you – & not just in the random go to the movies when you’re husband refuses to see the latest  chickflick kind of way – but truly walk beside you & encourage you & push you on & that you will do the same with. That’s my plan… 🙂

– Desirae

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We have a guest blogger today – the beautiful (and sparkly) Desirae Culp!  Thanks, Desi, for sharing with us a little of what God’s been revealing to you.  We want to honor and thank you for your openness and honesty…and without further ado – here’s Desi!


The last couple of posts on here have been about choices and I know I haven’t commented on anyone’s to affirm them, but it really has been relevant to me lately. Talking about choosing to be joyful or choosing thankfulness or choosing fullness, etc.

Until recently I had never thought about any of those as choices that I had to make. They were emotions and you were or you weren’t.

I think it’s common, especially as women, to run on the emotion. I know I do, and I forget to go back to the core of what I know is true and rest in that-to rest in the solidness of the character of God. That’s something He and I have been working on over the last couple of months.

And when I say “we’ve” been working on it, it’s really more God has been teaching me more of His character and how to choose to trust it. He doesn’t need to work on His character…it’s already perfect! 🙂 You would think that after a while I’d learn that He is unchanging and when He says “Always faithful, always good” that always means ALWAYS! But, nope, still learning!

And just when I think that maybe I have a handle on it, He adds something new.

The latest has been learning how to walk in grace-both in the giving and receiving of it. It’s been interesting to say the least. In a place of quite a bit of hurt and frustration and brokeness, etc., God comes and says I have a choice. I can choose to walk in those feelings/emotions and let them consume me and become me OR I can choose to lay them down right then and walk away in the grace given me with my head up and not pick them back up or turn around. There was no middle ground and it was a choice I had to make then…

In writing, it’s an easy choice – a real no-brainer right? Wrestling through it, not so much… But I laid those feelings down and chose to walk in grace. And it’s still not easy and there’s still “those” days, and still junk to sort through that leaves me wanting to curl up in a ball and pull the covers over my head or (even better) find a way to get to Neverneverland!! But each moment, God brings new mercies for me, and my heart gets a little more whole and lighter as I let stuff go, and learn to respond with more and more grace to people and situations in my paths.

I remind myself that even when I get knocked down, it’s my choice to stay down or to get back up, or to let God pick me back up and keep moving forward. I have reminders in my room, in my car, at my job that God is good, His Word is true, and His love never fails.

My favorite Psalms right now is Psalms 130..
Psalm 130
A song of ascents.
 1 Out of the depths I cry to you, LORD;
 2 Lord, hear my voice.
Let your ears be attentive
   to my cry for mercy.
 3 If you, LORD, kept a record of sins,
   Lord, who could stand?
4 But with you there is forgiveness,
   so that we can, with reverence, serve you.
 5 I wait for the LORD, my whole being waits,
   and in his word I put my hope.
6 I wait for the Lord
   more than watchmen wait for the morning,
   more than watchmen wait for the morning.
 7 Israel, put your hope in the LORD,
   for with the LORD is unfailing love
   and with him is full redemption.
8 He himself will redeem Israel
   from all their sins.

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